Friday, 10 February 2017

Never Give Up - Be Determined.


We are so very proud of Alex. His constant determination to succeed in life despite his speech delay is just so incredible. Alex has always tried his best to achieve the same as others around him his age. We had to fight to get the help he needed when he was younger but through our perseverance, he got support eventually. Alex had great support at his nursery school which gave him a great start and over the past 17/18 months since moving here, we have seen his progression just come on in leaps and bounds. He has amazing teachers at school who offer him a fun and positive environment where he loves to learn. Alex came home last week with the star of the week award. He was beaming from ear to ear and when asked what it was for he proudly said "I'm a super reader. I now have word list 11 and have moved to yellow level now". This is such a big achievement for him. He has always struggled with reading due to his delay, so to hear this and witness the joy when he cane home with the yellow level reading book was amazing. For those that don't know the difference, yellow level books have 2-3 sentences on each page whereas before he only had a few words on each page. We love to listen to Alex read each night and to see his progression going from words like "a" , "I", "in" etc to words like "house", "should", "children" with confidence.
Alex loves reading and using his phonics knowledge from class to help work out the bigger words.
Reading is so important and sharing books together is something that we love to do too.



We are immensely proud of Alex and all the things that he continues to achieve. He never gives up and just keeps proving all the doubters wrong and we couldn't be more proud. WHAT A STAR.



 

Saturday, 7 January 2017

Am I Good Enough?

Over the past few months, I have been reflecting on myself as a mother - (Its never a good thing for me to sit and think for too long because my brain goes into overdrive). I started asking myself if I was being a good enough mum to Alex. Now I know from the outside, people will say "of course your a good mum", but for me I often find this really hard to believe. I often feel like a failure.

I know that this sounds silly and I shouldn't compare myself to others, but sometimes I just cant help it. I look at some mums, and wish that I could offer my Son all the things that they give to their child/children - holidays abroad, day trips every weekend or every other weekend, numerous extra curricular activities etc etc etc. I wonder what Alex thinks about me as his mum and occasionally I wonder if he talks about me to his friends and if he does, what is he saying? I often feel like I may be failing him.

I recently spoke with a friend about how I was feeling and they told me "its not about how much money you have and spend on your kids, its how much TIME you spend ". We spoke in length about this and discussed how although I beat myself up about motherhood and comparing myself to others, I do enough. We bake together, get crafty together, go out for walks and play games together. We read together and learn together and much more.
 I realised that I spend plenty of time with Alex doing things he loves that doesn't cost the world and that is all that matters. He just wants my time so I need to stop worrying about others and remember that  I AM GOOD ENOUGH.

I am so proud to be Alex's mum and to watch him grow and develop into a lovely young man. Ive watched him overcome so many challenges in his small life and yet he has taken them on and proved so many people wrong.
Its so sad when you think about it that the world is so materialistic nowadays and that there is so much comparison and pressure to keep up with other families.

To all other parents out there, please don't get tangled in the same net of comparing yourself to other parents. It will only make you feel like a failure and as long as you do your best then that is all that matters. Your best is good enough. I know that now and I am going to make a conscious effort to not put myself down as much. I AM GOOD ENOUGH.






Saturday, 13 August 2016

Where did it go?

On 12th August 2015 the movers arrived in the form of my brother, Josh and our friend, James.
The past twelve months has flown by and we cant quite believe the blessings we have seen since the move a year ago.
We are grateful for those who supported us in our move and for those who doubted us, all we can say is the evidence speaks for itself. We are all doing well and Alex especially is progressing well with his speech and is so much more confident and loving life.
At the end of the day, the Lord saw the bigger picture and had a plan. We just took a leap of faith and followed his prompting to move. It was the right decision for our little family and who knows where the future will take us, but we will cross that bridge when we get there as the saying goes.
We have alot to look forward to. Thanks again to all who have helped and supported us over the last twelve months. We love you all. ❤ ❤


 

Monday, 18 July 2016

Reflecting on our New Chapter - One Year On.

It has just past the one year mark since we made the decision to start a new chapter in our lives and move to Stoke from Leeds. I really cant believe just how fast time has flown by. Next month will be officially a whole year since we actually made the move, but for now I thought id take a look back at how our decision has been turning out.

We made this decision in July 2015 to move our little family down to Stoke on Trent .After a lot of fasting and praying, we put our trust in the Lord and as they say we took the plunge and just went for it. When we told people of our decision, we were very surprised if I'm honest by how much opposition we actually faced from people we knew, especially a few of who we thought were good friends.

Here are a few of the comments we heard about our decision;

  • "Are you sure you are making the right decision?"
  • "Have you really thought this through?"
  • "Your crazy to be going just like that "
  • Mark had this said to him once, "Have you had a say in this decision or was it made for you?"
The comment that hurt the most was the following;
  • " I heard that Mark was given an ultimatum by Gemma that she was going to move with or without him."
I cant begin to tell you just how much this comment hurt. I wont reveal who said it, but it was very hurtful. The decision to move was a joint one, and it wasn't an easy one. We had a lot of factors to consider which we did do before the decision was finally made.  It really hurt that people we thought were close friends would say such a hurtful thing.

Despite the opposition we went ahead with the move and had faith that all would work out.



We didn't know how things would turn out, but we were definitely not going to stay put and then constantly ask ourselves "what if ", so we did the move as we felt it was the best thing to do for our family.
Since we made the move, we have had so many blessings pour in. We were blessed to get our home within a month of the move, and Alex has had an amazing first year in the Reception class at his school. His end of year report  is fantastic and he has overcome so much and has excelled in so many things. He did an amazing job at Sports day. He received the following:
  • 1st place in Sprint
  • 2nd place in skipping
  • 3rd place in hurdles
Alex is also doing amazing in his swimming lessons each week. He has brilliant swimming teachers who have helped him to learn to swim and gain so much confidence in the water. He does so well with swimming and can even do some strokes that we struggle with. We couldn't be more prouder of him.

Mark has been blessed this past week with getting a new job where his weekends are now free which is brilliant for us as a family.

We are so happy we had the faith to move and to ignore the negativity from some people and put our faith in the Lord and we feel that the evidence in front of us speaks volumes  and proves that this decision was the right one for us to make and its just a shame that some people couldn't support us and be happy for us.
However to those family and friends who did support us we want to say how much we appreciate you and love you. Thank you to those who did believe in us. If people cant support us and be happy for us, then we ask that you keep out of our business and please keep your negativity to yourself.




Wednesday, 20 January 2016

"Mummy, I can see better now"

At the back end of 2015, Alex was referred to the hospital for his eyes following a check up at the opticians. We had noticed that Alex had a slight turn in his left eye and that he was struggling to see on the left side.
After seeing the optometrist at the health centre, Alex was referred to an optician to have more eye tests. Specsavers were brilliant with him and he was so good for all of the tests they did. We were there for just over an hour and a half.
The results of the tests showed that Alex has a weak left eye and needs glasses.
Alex has taken well to wearing glasses and loves showing them off to friends and family. He chose two pairs - A Lightning McQueen pair and a Spiderman pair.
Once we collected the glasses, as we left the shop he said "Mummy I can see better now" It melted my heart. As a parent all you want is for your child/children to be well and happy. We are so blessed to have such a lovely boy who is surprising us day by day.

Here he is wearing his Lightning McQueen glasses


Tuesday, 5 January 2016

A New Year Brings New Adventures

HAPPY NEW YEAR
 


A new year brings us all new adventures, experiences, challenges but most of all time with family and friends. We look forward to sharing our adventures etc with you all this coming year.
 

Christmas 2015 - A Magical Time of Year

Growing up both myself and Mark had traditions that we did with our families at Christmas, so we wanted to continue that with Alex.

Christmas Eve

The elves left a Christmas eve box for Alex. Inside he found a new pair of Christmas pjs, a Christmas dvd, sweets and a Christmas book we read before bedtime. Alex loved receiving his box and straight away he wanted his new pjs on.
After we had all changed into our pjs, we put on the dvd and all snuggled up on the sofa.  Following the dvd, we got the nativity out and told the story of the birth of Jesus with us all playing the different parts. Alex absolutely loved acting out the story.
The final thing to do before bedtime was to get the treats ready for Santa and his reindeer. Alex insisted that the reindeer had extra food because they "fly everywhere taking Santa to houses".


Christmas Day

Alex was so excited when he woke up to find Santa's footprints in the house. He couldn't believe his eyes and was very happy when he saw that the food had been eaten too.
We had a lovely day with family, eating yummy food, opening gifts and having fun together.

Christmas to us is all about spending time as a family, focussing on the true meaning of Christmas and  seeing the magic of Christmas through a child's innocent eyes - Its amazing to see the joy and sparkle in his eyes when opening his simple gifts but being so excited. Even though we couldn't afford a tremendous amount for Alex, he didn't mind and was so happy to have the gifts that he did and that to us makes our life worthwhile.